DEBBI BURCH. FORMATIVE PSYCHOLOGIST. SOMATIC THERAPIST.
When as adults we are connected to our nature, we know and respect what we need. We are naturally our most authentic, loving, purposeful and selfless selves.
Because we have normalised this connection there is an ease, a natural perception of the resonance between the world in and around us.
The problem is, when things aren’t right, we tend to think we are the problem. So we turn away from ourselves.
We look to that person, that place, that job or that group of friends to give us validity. We adapt and perform.
When all along, our true nature is alive in us, calling.
It might call as frustration, sadness or anxiety. Or perhaps as loss, panic or depression. Or perhaps as a nameless, haunting melancholy that tells you there is some place better than here.
The very experience we think confirms our not-rightness is nature trying to remind us that we care, that this life in us matters and that we have these dreams.
I have twenty years training and experience in humanistic psychotherapy, particularly TA, Gestalt, Psychosynthesis, the work of Virginia Satir and Formative Psychology. I have also been influenced by the Emotional Health work of Bob Johnson, by my experience of running Dialogue groups in prisons (Dialogue being based on the work of physicist David Bohm), by my engagement in the emerging Integral field pioneered by philosopher Ken Wilber and by my immersion in Mondo Zen.
Children interpret traumatic and ordinary events to mean something negative about themselves, which then becomes their unconscious reality.
Co-arising with these interpretations of reality – and indeed holding them in place – are unconscious bodily constrictions and/or disconnections that also need reorganising.
Formative psychology takes a somatic – bodily – approach to working with these muscular habits.
This entails a discipline that can be hard to commit to when the mind has normalised an inaccurate view of oneself and the body has normalised discomfort, so it can help to have the support of a therapist to establish a practice of embodiment that supports transformation.
We all need to tell our story, we all need kindness when we are most unkind to ourselves and we all need help to see what we cannot see and to actualise our potential.